Lessons Learned as a Law Enforcement Wife


My reflections on being a Police Wife for the past 11 years offer a powerful and insightful perspective. It’s evident that you’ve gained valuable lessons that extend beyond the realm of law enforcement and are applicable to life in general. Here’s a summary of the key points:

  1. Teaching Children About Police:
    • Encourage children not to fear the police but to see them as helpers.
    • Correct misperceptions that police will arrest children for misbehavior.
    • Remind kids that police officers can assist them when they are lost or scared.
  2. Acknowledging Bad Actors:
    • Acknowledge the existence of bad actors in every profession, including law enforcement.
    • Emphasize that the actions of a few should not define the entire group.
    • Highlight the positive actions of officers that often go unnoticed in the media.
  3. Humanizing Police Officers:
    • Stress the humanity of police officers—they have families, emotions, and personal lives.
    • Recognize the sacrifices officers make, such as being called away during special occasions.
    • Understand the emotional toll of dealing with difficult and traumatic situations.
  4. Life Lessons Beyond Law Enforcement:
    • Recognize that there are multiple sides to every story, and the truth may not be immediately clear.
    • Appreciate the complexity of situations and avoid viewing them in strictly black-and-white terms.
    • Cultivate empathy and give others grace, acknowledging the battles they may be facing.
    • Avoid letting the decisions of one person influence opinions about an entire group.
  5. Building a Support System:
    • Find friends who can relate to the unique challenges of being a Police Wife.
    • Seek a supportive community that understands the fears and frustrations associated with law enforcement.
  6. Embracing Life:
    • Emphasize the importance of not taking life for granted.
    • Cherish each moment with loved ones, recognizing that life is a precious gift.
    • Live in the present and appreciate the significance of every moment.

A version of this story was published on May 22, 2015, by author Heather Stocking; it has since been updated.

Previous articleOur Experience with Fostering Pets through Quad City Animal Welfare Center
Next articleGo, See, Explore: Schweibert Riverfront Park



Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here